So I cant have my dream wedding because I am gay!?

It doesnt make sense.

I dream of an outdoor wedding. Not really summer or spring, I want it to rain. But so my guests dont get wet, I want to have a giant clear gazbo (is that what they are called?) so we can still see all the rain falling. Not too many flowers (tacky), but enough to decorate. I want a pretty dress, not too long and flowy, something more simple.



I cant have this.

None of this.

Because I am lesbian. I live in California, where we sign a paper to become domestic partners. If I want a real wedding, I have to travel hours away to have a tacky indoor "wedding" that costs $50.

I know that I am only 15, but when you were 15, didnt you dream of the perfect wedding? Not even perfect, just pretty and outdoor with family, you know? I am so dissapointed :(

So I cant have my dream wedding because I am gay!?
Lesbian person...you can have whatever kind of wedding you want. You do not need persmission to have a wedding. Have a friend read the vows and go through the motions. Just make sure that you get your domestic partnership before hand that's all. It will be a beautiful day for you and your other lesbian partner.

Tata lesbian friend
Reply:Come to South Africa, dahling! My wife %26amp; I have been married since October 2007, and it's BLISS! It really is different than just being involved.
Reply:YES, I feel you on that. I had always dreamed of the perfect wedding when I was younger and now I still have dreams but they changed because I fell in love with a woman.



But you are only 15 so maybe when your older it will be legal here, I sure hope so LOL.



We are getting some progress because it is legal in 1 state now.



I pray that eventually gay marriage will be legal in all 50 states we just need more open-minded people in politics.



I had to edit my answer because...

I think her point was that she can't be legally married and she wants to be able to have a legal wedding and no damn it that ish about legal partnerships that is bull we want it to be the same as a straight person getting married all the same legality all the same things that goes along with straight marriages. Yes as a few of you pointed out she could have her dream wedding but it wont be the same if it is not legal here and I feel her on that.
Reply:you can have your dream wedding. afterall, you're just 15 and you'll never know, gay marriage will be allowed after a few years.
Reply:Theres no reason on earth, that you and your partner can't have the dream wedding you've imagined. Just don't let freaks with a bad attitude spoil it for you! Your still young, so give it time %26amp; things will change for the better. Every day, more %26amp; more people come out, so eventually we will no longer be a minority, and equality will prevale- mark my words! Better times are just around the corner for us all!
Reply:I'm 16, and my perfect wedding is at Disneyland, under the castle, and I want it to sprinkle a little too. Price tag is what's holding me down though- could go up in the hundreds of thousands.



But yeah, you are 15. People are becoming more acceptable towards homosexuals. Who knows, by the time you turn 20 they may allow your dream wedding.
Reply:to be honest, all your wedding really is signing your your vows. this is usually done in a municipals building, the city hall i think. You can still have your "dream wedding" the main part of your wedding is the reception. Basically the food and drinks that you have AFTER you sign your marriage license, that is the really wedding.
Reply:u can!!!!!!!!!! dont act like the culpret!!!!!!!!!!! gosh hahah i just kidding i aint mean like that but ya u can but some people are so agianst gays i am so totally not! i mean there people 2 and cool u should jsut get marrie now!!!!! hahah if u want
Reply:Okay, I'm lost. I live in California, too, and there is nothing illegal about you putting on a dress and having a ceremony with flowers under a gazebo. In other countries, such as Germany and Mexico, civil governmental recognition is a completely separate matter, so you wouldn't be able to legally marry outdoors anyway if you lived there:



"A marriage in Germany is legal only if it is conducted in a registrar's ('Standesamt') office. You can have a religious ceremony later."

http://marriage.about.com/od/germany/p/g...



"A marriage in Mexico is legal only if it is a civil ceremony performed at a local Civil Register Office (Oficina del Registro Civil). You can have a religious ceremony later."

http://marriage.about.com/od/internation...
Reply:I'm a lesbian. I cannot get legally married/partnered/civil unioned in my state. I don't care; I'm marrying my lady.



We found a local glbt church. The minister there is going to marry us. Our marriage will be recognized in all of the churches affiliated with this church. It is going to be in the chapel, with candles, pew, and our friends and family. We are having a reception back at our place to save on cost, but are decorating, having a cake, and will be going on a honeymoon.



We hope to make it to Mass this summer to legalize it there.



Don't accept the conformities of your situation. Be a trailblazer, and make your own. You can absolutely have that wedding. Trust me. The wedding industry is huge, they are dying to help alleviate you of your cash. If you are able to pay for it, they will help you.



For instance, my lady and I went and purchased our rings at a nation-wide jeweler together. We were very honest -and obvious- about what we were doing. The people couldn't be any nicer; they don't care, they want their commission!



So, honey, go on, dream and do it. Oh! And stay away from tacky.
Reply:Make your own!

Lots more fun.

Hire a place, or do it in a public park or something, just have a celebration to sign the papers.



..Although I think by the time you're ready for a wedding it will be legal.

:)
Reply:Unfortunately, you are permitted to have a "commitment ceremony".
Reply:I think gay rights are so warped. As far as i'm concerned, you are who you are. Just like every other human being, you need companionship. No one can help who they fall in love with and no one has the right to tell someone who they can and cannot marry. I'm straight, but I can't even fathom what it would be like to have someone tell me I couldn't marry my fiance!



I think that everyone deserves to have their dreams come true. I think that if you have a beautiful vision of your dream wedding in your mind, you shouldn't let it go. You just have to believe in that dream with all your heart and don't stop searching until you find it. you do not have to have a tacky indoor wedding. somewhere, there is the perfect place for you to have your dream wedding that will accept you and your partner.



Never settle for less than what you deserve. If you keep your chin up and work hard, you'll reach your dreams!
Reply:Please darling yr only 15!!!!!! You may well change yr mind about the whole lesbian issue. You may be bi, or straight and going thru a "phase" and if yr not well apologies..........



Wait 10 yrs and then see if yr dream is still the same, it may not be. Oh and did i mention "your" dream wedding involves a partner of wotever sex and they have an input y'know!!
Reply:Why not have an outdoor ceremony celebrating the commitment you have made. Go sign the papers to become domestic partners and have your dream wedding/ceremony. Don't let the government bring you down, don't let them win!