Is it love or is it sex?

If I were to write exactly how I feel right now…I wouldn’t know where to began or how to start it and it would mostly come out all wrong and jagged. Feelings are harder to express on paper than you think, well certain feelings are. But I’ll give it a try anyways. Let me for warn you that this isn’t sugar-coated, there’s no cherry on top of this, and no “niceness” at all. Just pure experience covered in salt making it more bitter than ever.

After you read this you might hate me or you might completely agree with me, but I’ll take the risk of being hated. It’s the truth of how I feel and I’m sticking to it.

So here I go…deep breath..

I have met many guys in my life. From a complete sweetheart to a callous son-of-a-*****, and that is putting it nicely.

But you know what is utterly sad? The complete sweetheart is an asshole in disguise. They sicken me even more. Those assholes in disguise are quite tricky indeed. Just when you think they are “everything you have ever dreamed of!” they all of a sudden don’t have “feelings” for you anymore. Puh-leeez, like you ever had feelings to began with you ******.

I am sickened by this man-population these days. They’re all out for one thing and one thing only. SEX. Well, **** you. Now see, girls like sex, don’t get me wrong, but we aren’t all about that. We want everything else love has to offer. Kisses on the cheek, dancing in the moonlight, holding hands while watching the sun set, back rubs, and cute text messages saying “I love you.” You know, the small things.

It’s hard to decipher what man is real or fake. Whether they like you or not. Whether they see you as a doll and only call you when they want sex. Or whether they call you because they want to be with you, sex or no sex. See, I’m confused. How do you know when a guy really wants to be with you or not? Some play that game where they act all friendly and lovey-dovey so you fall for them and give them what they want in the end because you think they have feelings for you. But then they wind up feeding you this bull-crap about how they just don’t feel the same for you anymore or “it’s not you, it’s me” bullshit and then you are left in your dark room, covers over your head, balling your eyes out for a guy that could not care less. How pathetic can we get now? I am guilty to this. Very guilty. But I am sick of crying over guys who don’t give a **** about me. Who got what they wanted and left. Well I’m done giving out roses. Your gonna have to prove to me that you are not an asshole or an asshole in disguise. Call me. Text me. Don’t ignore me. Kiss me. Hug me. Call me beautiful. Buy me flowers. Buy me dinner. Give me a backrub. Hold me. Just love me. And ******* mean it, say you mean it! Or you’re just going to waste your time and mine and then I’m going to get pissed.

If you ever date me, long enough, you will find out that I am all about the little things. I like to know a guy is thinking about me. I am very generous also. You give, I give more. I am by no means selfish, and I know all you guys need your space and your time to be with friends and family. I completely understand that, as I need that time too. Just remember it only takes a second to send a quick text letting me know you are thinking about me. It means a lot. That’s all I ask. If you don’t like it then don’t date me. But if someone really likes you there going to WANT to take that time out of there busy day to show you they are thinking about you. I always make that effort for someone I really like and care about.

Girls think too much. We wonder when you don’t talk to us for a whole day. We start analyzing to see if we did anything wrong. Our minds start running and we question if today is the day you are breaking up with us. We freak out over the little things. Remember that for me. Do that and your relationship will be that much easier. J Trust me.

Now please, guys don’t get mad at me, you have to understand that I have come from a previous list of asshole boyfriends, you can only understand where I am coming from. I have many great guy-friends out there who are capable of being the perfect, respectful boyfriend that every girls wants. Now I don’t know whether you guys are just better as friends because it seems like as soon as you guys get a girl, you turn into this nasty player. It all changes and of all a sudden you talk about your own girlfriend, the one you say you love, like she is some toy. Do guys ever really feel? Like feel for a girl, you know, get those butterflies, palms sweat, heart flutters, nerves running through you, and your heart melts every time you see her? Or is it just girls who are like that?

Please let me know, let me understand what you men out there want. Let us know the truth so that way we know what we are getting ourselves into. It would be greatly appreciated!

Is it love or is it sex?
Hi,shabbir is here.I thing u had taken out all things regarding us,right.Ok let's come to the point.Now a dayz almost every one in the whole world is only for SEX.Some guyz wan to use gurlz as TISSUE PAPER,just use them %26amp; throw them in a garbage.

I am telling this,%26amp; i know what i am telling,but this is right.I a not afraid of any one when i am going to do a good job for the sake of ppl.I appriciate u.The main thing is that u ppl should have the abelity to know whether the guy u r talking is right for u or not.Any one can wear any face when he/she is need of it.Its our responsibility to recognise him/her that he real or fake.Look if u have more difficulties than contact me on shabbir323@yahoo.co.in.Ok bye Take Care.
Reply:questions should be brief and not be long like essays.
Reply:First of all, sorry about that, I want to tell you that the way you present yourself to guys so they will take you. I am a man a I want to tell you that guys don't really stay long with any lady that lack respect which means you have to respect your man don't be force toward your man. Do you know that your language toward your man also matter? And let your man know is not all about sex. And you must exercises patient with your man. I want to tell you men get their mind and they watch your attitude as you watch them too. Try and be loyal to him. This would help you much. Above all let your man understand you are lady of integrity.Let your behaviour and action show that you care more than he does. I know this is hard but I am telling you these are the things that gives you the heart of a man. Also you need to understand guy. What he likes, how she like you to dress, admire him, make him important, I am telling you if you can do this it would be very hard for any man to run away from you. Though these are tough to do. But I hope you gonna give it tr yer
Reply:to put it short, MAN TAKES MAXIMUM ADVANTAGE WHEN HE MEETS GIRL, BCZ HE IS NOT SURE WEATHER HE IS GOING TO HAVE HER FOR LONG TIME..and to satisfy girl is highly impossible..,
Reply:I know how you feel. I know how bad it hurts to be done like that. At my last job I met this guy that I thought I was in love with. I thought it was love at first sight, he was everything I wanted in a man...at least thats what I thought. H etold me that he really loved everything about me and that he wanted to be with me. I was so happy...we where having sex like every day and having a great time together. Well that was untill i found out that he had a gf. Then the **** hit the fan! When she found out he turned around and told everyone at work that he was bi polar and that he didnt remember ever having sex with me or telling me any of that( yea right) I was so...hurt. I wanted to die. I left my job. He made me look like the stupid one. I hate him for that. One of his friends told me a little while back that he didnt know what to do because he was put on the spot and thats why he said what he said and that he really cared about me. All I wanted to say to him Is go to hell!! You ever heard that song that says , lookin for love in all the wrong places...lookin for love in too many places!! Thats how I feel. Hang in there and good luck. You will get through all this!
Reply:wow so long question..sry!!i dnt have the time 2 go through the whole question!!!

ask questions in brief from next time
Reply:You made some really great points, especially about the bad apples in disguise. I met someone like that not too long ago and he seemed so sweet and caring until he turned out to be the most inconsiderate and rude person that I've met. It's really hard because I think every girl out there does ( or has dreamed of at least) the perfect man for herself and it hardly ever happens. It's truly sad to see what men have become in the past couple years but if I were living in the old times, I could possibly be saying the same thing hahah.
Reply:Before i go into a long explanation and i am happy to do so, how old are you? Ok thanks for that, it is hard to be objective when you are emotianaly upset like you obviously are at present but i will do my best to give you some straight and honest opinions from a dads point of view, i have 3 daughters 26, 24 and 18 and also from a mans perspective who has had a pretty hard time over nearly 30 years but have now found love and happiness, does that sound like i may know a little where you are coming from?

At 18 your male female relationships (adult type) are just begining and i only hope that you will see that not all men are the same and nor are women, let me tell you a quick story, i got married at 20 thought i was in love but she was just the first girl that went out with me as i had a real body image problem and low self esteem. I was married for 23 years mostly miserable, the only real joy in my life was my 3 daughters. So i waited until i thought they were old enough to move on and start my life again, by now i was 42 and i met this dolly bird and fell head over heals in love with her. After a year she said she loved me but wasnt in love with me, whatever that means. Her parents and brothers and sisters said she was the happiest she had ever been and all that stuff but she rejected me, i was totally heart broken and thought i was going to die, i became a recluse, started drinking heaps, could hardly do my job and was totally devastated. To the point my doctor thought i might be suicidle and put me on anti depressants. It was horrible and one day i thought i am so tired of feeling like this and i found a councillor and started going. It took me over a year to start feeling half normal, during that time i actually met some really nice ladies and i really p***ed them off as i was thinking are they going to do the same to me as she did and i couldnt trust them so i built a big barrier to try and protect myself. The one day i was invited out by my friends to a lunch with a heap of people about 4 years ago and lots of dates and lots of loneliness and self doubt that anyone could be nice and trustworthy and all these things, i really didnt want to go but they insisted and dragged me along, well i am so glad i went as i met this absolutely beautiful woman who loves me for me, thinks i am the greatest thing since sliced bread and treats me like a king, i now have my zest for life back, i changed my job, we bought a new house a tear ago and we have a little 3 year old boy, life is so good i couldnt be happier. I had sweaty palms, i had butterflies, heart flutters, nreves, my heart melted every time i spoke with her on the phone the whole lot, i felt like i was 18 again. So i hope this gives you a little insight as how it can hurt guys too. In closing, keep your mind open, get out and enjoy life and stop worrying about stuff you have no control over, maybe you are attracted to the wrong type of guy and thats why you end up in the same situation. In fact one of my councilors said to me that if i walked into a room with a thousand women i would have one that stood out and she would be exactly the same as the one that broke my heart, and she was so right so i had to change my attitude first to finally find the love of my life, so good luck, dont be bitter just use this as a learning experience. I am so sorry you are feeling like this but given time you will be ok

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