Moral question?

A couple of weeks ago there was a horrible accident on my property where 4 teenagers were killed (drunk driving-flipped off the hwy into my pasture). As I feel so horrible about what happened, friends and family have put out flowers, candles, signs (which I think is nice) but today when I walked outside to go get the morning paper, I noticed a 9 foot tall cross, with blinking lights attached to my fenceline. I am a Christian and my heart goes out to the friends and families of those who were killed, but a 9 foot tall cross is just a bit overkill for me considering the fact that the current shrine is about 5'x5'. So my question is, when do you remove it? I was thinking about removing it after the New Year, but I don't want to throw it away...but then again...how do you tell someone you don't want that on your property? I am stumped. Please help!

Moral question?
I think you are being very kind and considerate to leave it there until after New Year's day. Maybe between now and then you could find out who left it there and gently request them to take it home after the holidays.
Reply:Consider how these families are hurting. Why does it bother you that the cross is there? It's not in your way right? It's a way to help them through the grief process. Leave it there.
Reply:Sounds like a moral dilemma you are in. I would wait till after news years just out of respect to the dead. But that is only my opinon. I hope you find peace in whatever action you take.
Reply:Oh my. I think you should do as you said and leave it till the New Year at very least. They did just lose their children that's a big deal..But also that is your property and it's not the greatest thing to be reminded of in such a grandeous way every morning for a too long period of a time. I'm sure thing's will pan out okay..all the best..
Reply:I have never seen anybody be that presumptuous as to erect a 5X5 memorial on someones property and then install a 9 ft. tall cross. In my town, the police will let you erect a 2 ft cross. Anything larger than that is removed by the city. You have every right to ask them to remove it. Give them your condolences and tell them that you are sorry but that this is your property. There is no reason for your property to be converted into a shine. A small cross is sufficient. If it were my property, I would remove both.
Reply:its your property ,remove it any time you want
Reply:Well more then likely you could just let it go for the time being, most times it will only last a few months, then you will still see stuff there but it will not be near as large. Besides to me it can be a good thing, seeing as when teenagers or others drive by they are reminded of the incident, which makes them face the fact that life is precious and also remind them to drive carefully and not to drink and drive. So considering it is not actually in your way, the comfort it gives to the family and the message it sends to others, I personally would not worry if it was eye pleasing to myself or not, considering how many lives it might save. If you are really that bothered by it I can only suggest to talk to the families but I will not promise how they might feel in return, so my question is, would it be worth it?
Reply:Just try to be nice for a little while seriously these people just lost their kids.
Reply:Oh my, what a terrible dilemma, one I am glad I am not in Being a Christian, I know your heart does go out to all of them and you want to do the right things. What would Jesus do????? But at the same time, you must look at the full situation. This is on your property, and if you feel a nine ft cross is too much, you have a right to say so. Many in the christian faith wont even have crosses. Its Jesus upon the cross, why we are saved. Its not the cross itself. If Jesus had been shot with a gun, would we have big guns in church for statues???? this has bothered me since the first time I thought about it. Yet, the cross is a CHristian symbol and I know you dont want to hurt or offend anyone. You too have rights tho. I would simply tell them you are behind what they are doing and are Christian. But, this is too much, and that you want it moved off your fence. If they can place it somewhere else, just off your property, then they can do so. Express your sympathy fully, and tell them that this has to be off your property or made smaller, whatever is your desire. We just cant go and hook on to anyones property with anything. I would give them ample opportunity to remove it, like two weeks, and then if it isnt moved, I would remove it, and set it to the side of my property for them to pick up. But, take care of it and make sure it isnt scratched or anything. I hope I have helped when I can. But, I can honestly tell you I wouldnt want that on my property fence either, and does it block your view?????

Use this as opportunity to share YOUR faith too, and why this bothers you, and do it only in love or dont do it at all.

We always ask What would Jesus do, and usually once we do that, answers come. If you get no results, just find out what your rights are to do with it before you do anything... always a good idea. but, please let them know the respect you have, and that your reasons for not wanting it are......

God bless you. Peace and love to you all.