Is my soon to be ex in love or on the rebound?

My ex and I split in May but spent most of the year spending time together. Around December, we decided to go ahead and divorce and filed papers. Not long after she asked me if I was dating and I told her yes. She seemed a little hurt. Our anniversary came at the end of the month and I sent flowers. We went to lunch and she started telling me about the new guy she was dating, and asking me about my dates. The last couple of weeks she is telling me this guy is the love of her life and were done. I've told her I still love her and am willing to fight for our marriage. Her friends feel she is fooling herself. I sent her an email telling her I am moving on but thanking her for showing me the changes I need to make to be better next time. She returned an email saying she is glad I am willing to change then describing how this guy loves her better than me, then turning angry saying she doesnt care what I change. Sound like a rebound to me and she still has feelings. Any thoughts?

Is my soon to be ex in love or on the rebound?
She still cares, HOWEVER, she wants to have her cake and eat it too. She sees characteristics in this other guy that she feels maybe make up for some of your shortcomings. Also, the first stages of a relationship is more exciting and causes more hormones and feelings to arise than an established relationship, so maybe she just likes that initial, new "in love" feeling. You're going to have to move on though.
Reply:In my opinion, you all should leave each other in the past. Going out to dinner, discussing who you all are dating, sending emails and you sending flowers should not have happened. Apparently, you all could not do these things during the marriage, so there's no need to start doing these things now. By doing these things, you both seems to be trying to hold on to something that's no longer there. Do you all have children? If so, then the only concern you all should have is the welfare of the child(ren). I find it childish that she tells you who she is dating and what the current boyfriend is doing for her. It is hard for me to say she is on the rebound because she may or may not. She may very well love this man (who knows other than her).



My thoughts are leave the past in the past. Since she is a part of your past then leave her there. Literally MOVE ON with your life. If you have to change your email address, phone number etc. than do so. Give yourself time to heal from the divorce before you get involved with someone else for you will find yourself "being on the rebound" as well. Don't look back at her and disassociate yourself with her personal life (who she's dating etc.) and don't let her into your business. I wish you well.
Reply:Maybe you should of tried to fix the marriage before filing for divorce. You had no problem when you went on dating, mmm doesnt seem like youve thought anything out. Shes saying this guy makes her happy and she loves him why not believe what shes saying? Is she a teenager playing games or a grown women? Move on with dating like you already did.
Reply:Umm...you filed for divorce, signed the divorce papers. You obviously didn't want this to end and she definitely clung on to the first guy that paid attention to her to spite you.



...but move on. So what if she is making a mistake?! Remember the reasons as to why you were divorcing in the first place...

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