My girlfriends parents don't like me...what do i do?

So i got into trouble with the law..and it was in the paper and my girlfriends parents read it. But you see i am not that person and everybody who knows me has forgiven me for my mistake and understood i was just not in the right place at the right time. We really care for each other but her parents won't let her see me and we really just wanna be together. I don't want her to do it behind there backs because i think its disrespectful to her parents. I do not agree with her parents opinion of me because they have never met me, but i do respect there opinion. I sent her a basket of flowers, a bear and a balloon for her birthday. I didn't send it for her parents to like me but they still won't let her be with me. Now i just need to know what can i do or try to make them see i'm not a criminal or a bad influence on there daughter...thank you.

My girlfriends parents don't like me...what do i do?
I think it depends on what your crime was. You don't state it so its kind of hard to answer this. If it were a drug case, underage drinking case, breaking and entering case..... so you see how hard it could be for us to answer not knowing the crime you committed. Also for it to be in the paper with your name listed must mean your an adult or in your state they allow juveniles names to be released. Then I wonder how old is this girlfriend we are talking about. Because if you are an adult and she isn't then that would be the only way her parents could enforce the rules of her not seeing you. So lets go on the assumption that you are of legal age and she isn't. And lets go on the assumption that your crime was a crime where her parents fear for her safety if she were to be around you. As parents, and someday when you are one you will fully understand, we do fear that our children no matter how old they are will be found with someone who we deem unworthy. We fear they might get caught up in a mess and a legal one at that. You say that is exactly what happened to you. That everyone else in your life has forgiven you except her parents. So my only advise to you would be to sit down and write them a letter explaining how the situation took place, how you found yourself there, how you know in your heart that it would never happen again, explain how you have taken steps to make sure that it does not, and tell them anything else you think would make your case at seeing their daughter again better for you. For example, I would tell them you would be more than happy to be under their roof visiting their daughter while they watch until you earn their trust again and you understand it might take a long time, but you care enough to take the time that is needed. I hope you follow through because I do believe that is the only route to take. I wish you the best of luck.
Reply:It depends on how bad the "thing" was, and how far you are willing to go to rectify it.

Hiding the relationship is the worst thing you can do. Good for you for not wanting that.

You need to do some damage control. Talk to her parents privately about the concerns they have. Or write them a letter saying how you really want their approval, and you're willing to do whatever it takes to make that happen.

Volunteer work is great for character, and it'd be a good point to her parents.

After that, you just have to give it time. Good luck, I hope everything works out for you.
Reply:If you want to see her you will need to talk to her parents.



So.. call and ask them if you could come over sometime and just talk with them. Just you and them... not your gf.



then just have a sit down and explain (don't give excuses) what happened, why it happened, and if you have changed how and why. listen.. really listen to what they are saying and asking and be sincere.



then.. give it a week or two. and then call them and ask them if it would be ok if you came over sometime to see your gf. this would be a time when THEY are home and can "supervise" (i.e. no going to her room.. more of a tv date).



then after a while.. if you gain their trust then you can go from there.



If you are not willing to do all this.. then just drop her, because her parents will never trust you and it will ruin the relationship.
Reply:put voodo on em
Reply:I personally think that you and your girlfriend should plan a dinner or something where you can meet them and get to know them. Offer to take them out to dinner where you pay(if you can) and let them meet the real you.. who you say that you are.
Reply:I can understand the parents here; they want the best for their child. It's tough luck on you that this is their first impression of you. I would move on if you don't want to go behind their backs
Reply:Well, everyone time you see her parents, you should bown down (from the waist) and say "Hello Mrs. ___ %26amp; Mr. ___"

And sound polite like "How are you today?"

And if they ask you some questions. Answer it like "Oh yes, I ____ "

Open the door for them when they walk in a house/car.

And clean up their yard or wash the dishes for them. =)

I hope that helps. That's what makes my mom likes my crush, lol.
Reply:You should go out for a meal with your gf and parents, talk to them about your past - say why and what happened at the point in your life. Also prove to them how much uve changed