I just had to break of with a man?

You see, he wants me and his wife too. He is separated and living in his own apartment as a single man. He wants a relationship with me and his wife is abusive too him. He served her papers and she wont sign them. She really wants nothing to do with him unless someone else takes an interest in him. He's a great guy as far as personnality and never abusive in anyway. Very kindhearted. But he wont proseed with his divorce. I love this man, but he needs to choose. I told him that and he tells me that I am putting to much pressure on him, he tells me to wait and it will eventually happen. I am an idiot. He really has become relaxed in having his cake and eating it to , if you know what I mean. He refuses to take me out and except one time and has never bought me flowers. So yesterday I told him it's been too long and I want to move on with my life. I am 41, single. no other men in my life, I have been told I am pretty and I deserve better. NO MORE!

I just had to break of with a man?
So is there a question here?
Reply:thats good...just stick to your guns....say what you mean and mean what you say. the only thing a bad man can do is stand in the way of a good one. get that loser out of your life.
Reply:Right on. You're doing the right thing.
Reply:ok....
Reply:Does he have kids ? if so, that may be the reason for him sticking around with the Ex or at least having to have a relationship with her. As for the guy, it's to hard to figure out what's going through his head. But from a guy in a similar situation, all I have is heart to give and if no-ones there to take it it difficult to do anything. He sounds like he picked the girl and is living with the mistake. I bet he cares for you deeply and needs to go through the ropes to get where he needs to be. I won't shut him out, give him time. If you like him, give some time and a chance to develop over time. As for the taking out on date thing, you got me ???? and on the flowers



If he's so kindhearted , where's the flowers ???? He needs to be thinking of you and may not be ..
Reply:Date someone else
Reply:Oh, please...



Grow up.
Reply:no matter how hard i try i will never understand women like you all i read was WAAAAA, WAAAAA, WAAAAAA you really need help!!!
Reply:you did the right thing good for you!!!!!
Reply:well,i guess you did right!!its better to move on with life instead waiting for someone who cant give you a status in society and expects you to be hanging around for his fancies to be satisfied!!
Reply:There is no pic of you on your 360.
Reply:GOOD FOR YOU!!! Let him deal with his problems. If he loses you, it's his lose. He is dealing with something that shouldn't involve you. I'm glad you are finally making the right decision to leave.
Reply:Yeah, you're an idiot.
Reply:it's really hard to break things off when you dont have anyone else to fill the gap...why dont you try weaning yourself from him?

try to find some other friends or join a club where people have some of the same interests you do so that you can eventually get away from him... i understand that he is a great guy but if he is ever "yours" you will always have that nagging doubt in the back of your head...if he did it to her, he might do it to me....i know from experience.......being alone is hard but being used is harder to get over
Reply:First of all your choice , I am sorry to say is not appropriate.A married man or woman should be morally responsible towards each other.You should not have disturbed them.Find a partner who is free from such responsibilities.You are making him put his both legs in two different boats and sail.What will happen he will fall into the water.

This reminds me of a story of a middle aged person with an aged wife and another young wife.The aged one plucked his black hairs and the younger one , got rid of his white ones,thus making him totally bald.

Contemplate on freeing yourself from this vicious triangle.
Reply:Move on and find some other GOOD guys to date. He is not going to leave his wife to marry you and if he does it will be never ending drama with her because if she is mad only when he is seeing someone she sounds psycho.
Reply:Good for you. You go girl.
Reply:so you just answered your own question didnt you?
Reply:I think you just answer yourself!!!

But if what you wanted was someone to agree with you.... I am the one...

You go girl!!!!
Reply:wheres the question