Am I overreacting?

My boyfriend asked me in November what I wanted for Christmas, and I told him- honestly- that instead of getting me any presents (at all), I would much rather that he write me a letter.



I wrote him one, just because I know how hard it is to do so, yet it is four days after Christmas now and he still hasn't put a single letter on paper.



The backstory to this is that we are both writers professionally, and neither have trouble expressing ourselves on paper. While visiting his family over the holidays, I was even regaled with stories about legendary letters he had written to former girlfriends. I have always been the spontaneous one in the relationship- making dinners, bringing home flowers, etc. Yesterday I carried a case of Guinness a quarter of a mile home, so he and some of his college buddies could hang out for the night.



It's not that he's ungrateful, and I know he cares, its just that I'm getting tired of being the only one who puts myself out there all the time.

Am I overreacting?
Sometimes people expect more from certain people, because they would be willing to do that much for them!

i think you havent over-reacted, and it would be dissapointing not to have recieved the letter just yet.

you have to think perhaps there is a reason for him not doing this, maybe he likes you a lot more than his previous girlfriends and feels that anythin he writes will not be good enough for you! maybe the letter writing ritual reminds him of past hurt because of his previous relationships.

Its a confusing matter. I think you should tell him how you feel, tell him you feel you do more of the work when it comes to being spontanious and that you feel he should put in more effort because the little, fun, romantic things that a parter does for their significant other are what makes that relatioship special and cherished!

if he does not respond to this, i suggest that you have a more serious talk about how much you mean to him!
Reply:Talk to him about it. Let him know how you feel, and ask him if something is bothering him. If he swears nothing is wrong, tell him that you just feel underappreciated sometimes. Don't make him feel bad, just let him know how you feel. Hopefully he will understand and spruce up a little.
Reply:Talk to him about and see what happens next.
Reply:well bottom line you can do a few different things. now me when i started to feel like that i got away for two months and now we are happier then ever. he missed me and i missed him. my man has a hard time telling me,writing me or just saying hey this is how i feel. i hate that part of guys it sucks *** bad. but you can tell him how you feel about all this, or just keep going the way you are.

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