Happily married....But no wedding!?

Got married at the Justice of the Peace. Embarrissing?..YES..Regretfull?...YES (No family and friends around)

Do I want a Million Dollar Wedding? NO

Is it all a piece of paper?

I kinda want the glitz and dress and flowers and cake....

Happily married....But no wedding!?
It's not embarrassing... I'm sure there were good reasons for that. You can plan a vow renewal ceremony to celebrate your 1 year anniversary (or any anniversary) where you can have family and friends and a dress and a cake and all that.



And no, marriage is no more "just a piece of paper" than any other symbolic expression; it's a socially accepted form of expressing committment to your partner, no matter what the wedding itself was like. Congratulations.
Reply:If we could do it all over again, we'd elope!!!! n
Reply:All good answers. Be happy with your choice! You just got married, so just enjoy being a new wife! The suggestion of having a reception for family/friends is a great idea.



Take all of that money you saved and start planning a nice honeymoon get away for just the 2 of you.



You can always renew your vows and have a big ceremony at a later date.



Congrats!
Reply:One of the reasons we have big ceremonies for things like weddings, funerals, baby-namings, etc., is that we have made the "contract" very public, and that carries a responsiblity that is "enforced" by society. While of course your marriage has the force of law, it may not feel like you have made that public commitment that a more elaborate wedding implies. I suggest talking with your husband about how you feel; there's no reason you can't have a simple but more public ceremony whenever you want to.
Reply:Renew your vows and make a fuss over it. Not a good idea to keep regretting it because that will grow into resentment, and resentment is one of those things that kills a relationship.



As long as you have or can save up the money to do it, be the bride you wanted to be :)
Reply:You have had a wedding! Whatever the circumstances, you are married. No reason to have regrets, just enjoy the marriage.
Reply:its not too late. just talk to your husband, im sure he'll understand
Reply:if you really love each other then it dont make a difference where you get married good luck
Reply:Hon, please! You HAD a wedding. When you exchanged vows at the JP, that WAS your wedding. You get one wedding per marriage.



THERE SHOULD BE ABSOLUTELY NO EMBARRASSMENT FROM THE FACT THAT YOU HAD A MODEST WEDDING.



If you do a re-run wedding/vow renewal (gag) then that means you are disregarding and cheapening the vows you already took the first time, simply because you were not wearing fancy enough clothes? Or didn't make a big enough spectacle of yourself? Didn't get enough attention? Not enough gifts? Or what? I mean, is that really the mesage you want to be putting out there, that vows are only important to you if they are at a fancied-up, more entertaining wedding?



There is no reason to be so tacky and have a re-run wedding. THAT would be embarrassing.



If you really simply want to celebrate, hold an anniversary banquet or dinner dance, which can be as formal, or not, as you wish, and you can even have a tiered cake and flowers. That would be much more appropriate, and you and your husband can wear formalwear (any color you want) and celebrate without having a re-run wedding and making everyone think how peculiar you are to have two wedding ceremonies, to satisfy your own vanity.
Reply:Do you think you would love your husband anymore if you had the wedding??
Reply:If you have loads of money then by all means go and spend it all on a big vow renewal ceremony.



Otherwise, save up and have a smaller vow renewal, it's quite common to do this now, you can have a beautiful ceremony with all the glitz on a budget.
Reply:When you're rolling in money, go renew your vows with a big ceremony and reception.
Reply:Honey I got married at the Justice of the Peace in Vegas and I have not one regret about it. I think that it was better then having a wedding. With a wedding you're paying all of that money for 5-7 minutes and for your guest to enjoy themselves. When it's all over you're in debt. I'm glad that I got married at the Justice of the Peace. I got me a new house and my husband is about to purchase me a BWM. That's better then a wedding.
Reply:you go girl!!!!
Reply:Celebrate one of your anniversaries by having a "real" wedding, that way you have plenty of time to plan your renewal of vows, and buy the things you want for the wedding :)
Reply:i know i want that to i got married in front of the justice of the peace and just for once i would like a real wedding so you are not alone on this

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