Why does my husband want me to get fat?

This morning he said he is going out to get the paper and he'll be right back. He came back with breakfast for us (all sorts of fattening foods) from this new pastry shop in town. I then told him, I can't eat that! I started explaining to him that I'm on a strict diet and my body is as beautiful as it is because I watch what I eat and I work with my personal trainer 3 times a week. He didn't say a word, he just kept listening to me explain to him why he shouldn't have bought the food, and the fact he wasn't saying anything back made me even more mad! He then left the house, and about two hours later came back with flowers and was apologizing, but I don't think he's sorry!! I am furious.

Why does my husband want me to get fat?
Because hes the Jealous type and he doesnt want other men looking at you..
Reply:Perhaps your husband is feeling a little insecure in your relationship and he is jealous when other me look at your well kept body. He may feel that if you were fat other men wouldn't eye you. He may be afraid of losing you.

Be sure you make him know that he is the only one for you and that you love him dearly. As well as working to build a great body, work at building a great relationship in your marriage so he will feel more secure.
Reply:Lighten up the guy was trying to be nice. Maybe all this dieting and exercise has made you a little uptight. Sounds like its possible from the way you over reacted to a freaking pastry. At this point he has apoligized for buying a pastry and has bought you flowers and you are still furious.



If this was him asking a question about this situation I would tell him to run from you as fast as possible.
Reply:Wow you seem like a *****. He probably didn't even think of the food as "fattening". He probably just thought it would be a sweet gesture if he bought you breakfast. and then he comes home and you explode and go on and on about why he's an asshole? Grow up. I hope he got to eat some of it and that you didn't throw it all away.
Reply:I think you are making a mountain out of a molehill. Most men (esp. married men) don't care about the amount of calories and fat in their food, so he probably just overlook that aspect when he bought all those tasties.



He went out and bought you flowers for something that isn't technically wrong. What more do you want?
Reply:i am thinking that he likes fat women its wierd but i have a friend he only likes fat womens y my friend says they are more funnier and cuter you know like when a 1year old kid its cute just because they are big as body u no fat kind of so it will be nice if u ask him tell him if he likes fat women or and if u know if he really likes u tell him that there wont be any more sex if i get fat
Reply:OH MY GOD - HE WAS REALLY JUST TRYING TO DO SOMETHING NICE FOR YOU. SAYING NO THANK YOU WOULD HAVE BEEN SUFFICIENT. THAN HE BRINGS YOU FLOWERS?!?! WOW - I AM THINKING YOU SHOULD BE A LOT MORE GRATEFUL FOR HAVING SUCH A THOUGHT FUL MAN....AS I AM PRETTY CONFIDENT THAT HE WAS NOT INTENDING TO GET YOU FAT, BUT ONLY TO DO A LOVING GESTURE TO MAKE YOUR DAY A LIL BRIGHTER.
Reply:he doesn't want you to get fat, he just doesn't want you to feel that you have to worry about your weight and that he loves you just the way you are. And will love you no matter how you look.
Reply:He did something nice so what if you couldn''t eat it. I would have said thank you honey, but I am on a diet so I am going to eat something else. Why do people have to get upset over the silliest things????
Reply:he wants you to get fat so he can chop off your head, cook you up and eat you.

haven't you ever read hansel and grettel?
Reply:He probably just wanted to be nice and wasn't thinking. Tell him what you can/cannot eat. He probably doesn't want you to get fat.
Reply:He's probably insecure and afraid of losing you to another man.

so he wants you to be unattractive.
Reply:so he can lose atractivness to you and make that an excuse to leave you. hesan asshole for doing this because its a mind game he is playing
Reply:Maybe he likes farm animals.
Reply:Maybe he just loved you the way you are and wasn't thinking of "making you fat". You sound VERY shallow to me.
Reply:God. Shutup you ponce.
Reply:get a grip. you are not in touch with reality. be thankful you have a caring husband.
Reply:Maybe he likes the chublins
Reply:bad communications!
Reply:so ur boobs will get bigger
Reply:There are a few possibilities here. The first is that he actually thought he was doing something nice when he brought home that food. It was something he enjoyed %26amp; thought you might like it too. Most men don't even think of fat or calories when they're looking at a tasty snack. When he realized how upset you were, he brought you the flowers to make amends, though he probably didn't really get what he did wrong.



The second possibility is that he was truly trying to sabotage your diet so you wouldn't look too good %26amp; attract other men. But this is rather unlikely because then you wouldn't look that goood to him either.



I thinkyou need to face the fact that you junped to conclusions this morning. Give the poor guy credit for trying to please you. Do you know how many women would take that in a minute?? You probably need to find a way to make it up to him! Good luck!
Reply:i honeslty dont think he needed to apologize for anything. when i read your question i thought he had told you specifically that he wanted you to gain wieght, but instead all he did was bring you food. He was prob happy to do soemthing nice for you, and all you did was complain. He prob stayed quiet not to piss you off more but because he was thinking "damn she doesnt appreciate anything you do" You think he was trying to get you to gain weight because its your won insecurity about food and gaiing extra pounds. You prob feel this need to not gain an ounce and when you saw the food you thought he was mocking you....but thats not his probelm. Next time he brings food, simply tell him you will eat your own healthy food, but please dont make him feel bad for doing something nice just because you are not happy wiht your own body.
Reply:He thinks that you being fat...may make you less attractive to other men....Way to go for standing up to him and letting him know how you feel about the garbage he wanted you to consume...



If your husband already knows how you feel about eating junk food...and that you are working on keeping your body healthy and trim...then he should have known to not get fattening food for you....I have heard of people trying to sabotage people's efforts in trying to lose weight....I seriously doubt your husband was trying to be nice....If he was really supporting your efforts in losing weight and working out...He would have brought you a plate of fruit...and not fattening pastries!!
Reply:Perhaps he thinks you should be less obsessed with your looks. Perhaps he thinks you're too skinny. Maybe he's sick of your personal trainer. Perhaps he thinks you ought to be able to eat something fun once in a while. perhaps he's sick of hearing about your beautiful body and your diet and your trainer etc, and thinks you should lighten up. Who knows?



I don't think you should be angry that he wanted to bring you something nice to eat, and I don't see why he should have to apologise. You should have eaten the food he brought you and been grateful. why should he have to apologise for wanting to feed you? i don't see that he's got anything at all to be sorry about. you're the one who should be apologising for being so ungracious.
Reply:It sounds like you are a fit attractive woman and he is afraid of losing you to someone better then him. So in his train of thought he figures if you put on some weight and such you would not be as appealing to other men. Truthfully if this is it he has serious jealousy and trust issues and you should question him about this. He could also be thinking hey new pastry shop maybe I should treat my loving and caring wife to some great pastries. He probably did not think about it backfiring and him not responding to you he is simply saying sorry I did not think that this wopuld bother you so much I will never do it again. Sorry to say but only a complete idiot would argue about some stupid pastries he seems smart enough to know when to pick his battles with you. Give him a break so what you like to workout he likes to enjoy the finer things in life stop being such a stuck-up snob and apologize to him for being a a complete psycho.

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