I'm already married and now I'm haveing my wedding ceremony?

I had planned to get married in Aug.07, but due to moral reasons we got married early at the court house on Oct. 26,2006. We wanted to keep the marriage a secret and still have a big wedding but then every one found out because it was in the paper. We still want a big wedding and we're still set for Aug. My husband and I want to celebrate %26amp; have a big wedding and reception with family and friends to attend. We want pictures,cake, flower girls,bridesmaid, everything. I'm planning this whole wedding the way that I wanted it to be done in the first place. It can be renewal of our vows but yet some people still don't know that we're already married. I know this is crazy but I just want to walk down the aisle and have a actual traditional wedding. Do anyone think this is crazy or would you go with what your heart and desire wants?

I'm already married and now I'm haveing my wedding ceremony?
of couse have a wedding!! you shouldn't feel like you have to miss out on all of that... i think its great that you married in secret so that you can morally feel right within yourselves..
Reply:We do this all the time, especially for young couples, they had a small civil ceremony previously, then they want to finally have a large formal wedding ceremony in a church with their friends and family there. This is very normal.



We perform small intimate ceremonies for troops deploying all the time, then when they return back to Hawaii, we have a second larger formal ceremony for everyone else.
Reply:I have had lots of couples do this. Some even get a 2nd license (there's a box they mark for 2nd ceremony) so that their Certificate of Marriage from the state will have their spiritual date on it. For some it is the separation of the contractual aspect of marriage from the spiritual, religious, and social aspect.
Reply:Girl, you go with whatever your heart desires. This is your day! Also, now that the actual stress of the whole getting married thing is over, you'll probably enjoy it more. (Actually more people do that than you think)
Reply:it's YOUR wedding, i say go with what your heart wants
Reply:Do what you wanna! It IS YOUR DAY.Don't worry what anybody says...Congratulatios!
Reply:DO YOUR THANG GIRL!!!
Reply:umm...if thats what you wanted then thats what you should have done in the first place. sorry but I think its tacky when people go ahead and get married then turn around less than a year later and do it over again the way they wanted it. why dont people just do it that way in the first place? was it such a big deal to wait not even a year and just have an actual wedding?
Reply:....Go with your heart, it's great for your family, your and his parents to also have an opportunity to celebrate traditionally. It's really individual and if it's important for you go for it....
Reply:Girl it's your life and your wedding, do it the way you want and have no regrets. It's your day - enjoy it!
Reply:Definately go for it. My best friend is doing the same thing next year. They got married last year because her husband was being deployed to Iraq. They already planned on getting married but didn't want him to leave in case the worst case scenario happened while he was there and didn't make it back. They are having a huge wedding next summer. Go for it and enjoy every minute of it!
Reply:So, you secretly got married for "moral reasons" and now you think you're entitled to some elaborate affair? Get real.



I have two words for behaviors like yours: GIFT GRUBBING.



Have a party to celebrate the marriage but don't call it a wedding ceremony. That's just tacky.
Reply:I went to a wedding renewal ceremony under similar circumstances. It made perfect sense when the minister said, "Michael and Julia want to say their vows in Church, with God, their family and friends with them." Or something like that. It was really beautiful and I think you're family and friends will be happy to join you on this special moment in your life.



I hope all goes well ~ Enjoy!
Reply:I worked with a girl who did this... They got married early and then had the family wedding also. If you have the money to spend for a wedding like that.. I say go for it.. I guess if there are people who oppose it.. they wont be at the ceremony will they. Good riddance I say.

Have fun, and enjoy many years of double anniversaries. Does that mean you get double presents every year.. wtg....